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Apr
21

How to build new habits and make them stick

We all have certain habits. Good or bad depends on our lifestyle. We can adopt new habits and even make them stick with us lifelong. Here are the tips to develop and make new habits stick with you.

  1. Why you started: Being dedicated to or newly developed habits isn’t easy but it isn’t impossible as well. Not only baby steps take you a long way but also you have to keep yourself motivated for the habit you want to develop. Always remember why you adopted a certain habit in your life because that was the thing which made you actually turn your thoughts into actions. It could be as simple as I want to be a guitarist then go and watch some of your idols playing guitar for a huge audience. Or it could be a simple task to live long just by maintaining your body weight. Every day keep reminding yourself why you started it and that will keep you going for it.
  2. Take small steps: Developing a new habit isn’t that easy and even if you do it is much harder to keep that habit lifelong. So many people decide to change their lives by adopting new habits in life – like regular exercise to be fit, learning guitar, reading books, etc. But it is easy to get excited about the habit you are about to develop but not everyone makes it a daily habit and quits in between the process. It is advised whenever you make new habits try to start with a small portion of time dedicated to that specific habit.  Let’s say you want to develop reading habits like Bill Gates and Warren Buffet but if you think you can start reading like them within a month or two you will end up leaving it very soon. Instead, take up a book. Give 10-15 minutes daily to read that book or maybe you can decide to read 10 pages daily. This won’t take too much of your efforts to be focused on it. Once you have completed 3-4 books reading this way you can then gradually try to increase your time or number of pages per day. So start with baby steps and you can reach miles in the long run.
  3. Reward yourself for small steps: We all have a clear picture of what will be the bigger reward if we achieve a certain level of skill and how could it change our lives. For example you want to build a business which can give you financial freedom later in your life. That’s very motivating in itself but that’s a bigger goal and as I said many of them quit in between of this process. So let’s say you decide that to become a successful businessman you have to adapt certain skills like Public Speaking, Networking, Social media marketing skills, etc. So now you will have these small goals to accomplish and when you perform your first public speaking session even if it is with only 5-6 people as audience or you step out in public and try to talk with people to defeat your ego or when you made your first social media campaign celebrate it. Give yourself a reward for accomplishing those tasks. Everybody loves appreciation but when that appreciation comes in the form of some materialistic form it motivates them to do more. So reward yourself to keep yourself motivated. It doesn’t have to be big but small rewards and celebrations would do it.
  4. Eliminate negative but attract positive: While working towards gaining new skills you have to make sure not only you who says “You will make it” but also people whom you sit with should motivate you or at least they shouldn’t demotivate you. These negative people impact our subconscious mind and even without realising what you are really looking to achieve they just have a habit of leg-pulling. Step out of such a group of people and surround yourself with positive minds who themselves are up to something in life and have goals. Try to be their moral support and they will be your moral support. Also seek their company on weekends to discuss what you have achieved. This will help keep you motivated and also if you stop doing something in the middle you will feel answerable to someone. These positive minds will not only motivate you but also make sure you are continuously working on your skills to achieve certain goals.
  5. Make a list of previous mistakes: It would have happened many times that you started something but ended up not doing it. Try to make a list of the things which made you not do it and figure out the real problem behind it. Come up with practical solutions and backup plans as well. So that if you again fail to do something in a previously planned manner you always have plan B, C and D ready to make sure that you make it where you want to reach. For example, you decided to wake up early in the morning and start the exercise by 6 O’ Clock but previously you just failed to do so. Now you figure out that it was mostly because you used to sleep late at night due to which you were not able to complete your 7 hours of sleep. So you will figure out what was the reason behind that. You may come to know that even before setting such a goal of waking up early you have to make another habit to sleep early. So first you have to have a habit of eliminating distractors and mood swingers before sleeping. You adopt healthy habits like not using phones or other things which can distract you and make you think before sleeping which can delay your sleep timing. And that’s how you achieve a new habit: you have to adopt other supporting habits to eliminate mistakes you would make unconsciously.